Honestly, I have no clue what being which means these days. I think it means different things to different people. There are a million different physical aspects to being butch. How you smile, stand, where jewellery, talk, scream, drink and faint. It's complicated really it comes down to two attitude. This chap book aims to revive very basic historical references for the way someone might sit, in Femme or Butch ways. After all. No one is born Butch. Do your homework and you two could be Butch. With thanks for inspiration to the butch manual, by Clark Henley copyright 1982 the seahorse press.